Planning on having an affair...?

i wouldn't do it if i was you because i'd die of shame and guilt. how about you talk to your husband, and explain the situation and maybe the two of you can agree to lead an 'open' relationship, where both of you could sleep with other people. see what his reaction is and be very careful what you say. if you do this behind your husband's back, it's bound to create difficulties for your relationship, whether he finds out or not.